Meet Ryan Ash
Build Better Relationships
From Empty and Alone to Strong in Myself
My passion for working with women to build healthier, more fulfilling lives rose out of the ashes of a life I watched burn down around me because I didn’t have the self-esteem or courage I needed to create good boundaries.
Twenty-five years ago, everything seemed to be going my way. I had a job that I enjoyed, a thriving love life, and a full social calendar. On the outside, I was doing great. Inside, I could tell something just wasn’t right. I was discouraged and stuck. My partner was cheating and lied to me constantly, but I didn’t want to leave. I was scared to be alone and felt lonely all the time, even when surrounded by other people. I only felt good about myself when I was doing something for someone else, so I people-pleased constantly. That made me feel so resentful and frustrated that I started pushing everyone away and drinking pretty heavily. One day, I looked around and saw that I had behaved so poorly and pushed everyone so far away that I had no one left. I was at rock bottom. Something had to be done.
Then I met a group of women that turned my life around. They helped me resolve my fears and insecurities about being alone. They taught me the power of the word “no” as a complete sentence. I studied books, took training, and met with these wise women to learn their ways. That led to doing great for a long while. I was happy and secure in myself. I didn’t worry about finding a partner, I was okay if I was on my own. I had great boundaries and was mentoring and guiding other women on how to do so as well.
Then I fell in love, and all the tools and insight I used helped me build a great relationship that led to marriage. Everything went well for years, but problems were building. Being in a monogamous marriage didn’t allow room for fully expressing myself and something wasn’t right in my husband’s behavior. Deep down I knew something was wrong, even though on the surface everything seemed great. When I found out what my husband had been hiding, my marriage changed completely. All my old codependency issues reared their ugly heads. I felt stuck in despair about losing my marriage. I tried everything and I broke all my boundary rules to try and save my marriage. That left me feeling empty and lost. Finally, I found the courage to leave and began slowly making my way back to myself. Once again, I dove into healing myself through boundary work.
I revisited the books that healed me so many years before and found new ones to reinforce what I needed to rebuild in myself. Slowly, I got back on solid ground. I knew I had to get back to helping others on their journey to better their own relationships with themselves and others. Even though I had already been guiding others for years, I went to school and got certified in master life coaching. I also became a certified clinical hypnotherapist after I discovered how well-guided imagery can expedite the healing process. Now, with decades of experience and my formal training, I work with women struggling with insecurity to stop people-pleasing and step into relationships they love.
I am in service to those who have lost or buried their identity, voice, or heart center. I guide my clients to find their deepest soul desires and express their most authentic selves. If you’re ready to find your way to a life you’re excited to live, I’d like to invite you to book a discovery call with me today. Together, we can create a plan to help you express your most authentic self and become the person you truly want to be.