Meet Ryan Ash

My passion for working with women to build healthier, more fulfilling lives rose out of the ashes of a life I watched burn down around me because I didn’t have the self-esteem or courage I needed to create good boundaries. 

Twenty-five years ago, everything seemed to be going my way. I had a job that I enjoyed, a thriving love life, and a full social calendar. On the outside, I was doing great. Inside, I could tell something just wasn’t right. I was discouraged and stuck. My partner was cheating and lied to me constantly, but I didn’t want to leave. I was scared to be alone and felt lonely all the time, even when surrounded by other people. I only felt good about myself when I was doing something for someone else, so I people-pleased constantly. That made me feel so resentful and frustrated that I started pushing everyone away and drinking pretty heavily. One day, I looked around and saw that I had behaved so poorly and pushed everyone so far away that I had no one left. I was at rock bottom. Something had to be done.

Then I met a group of women that turned my life around. They helped me resolve my fears and insecurities about being alone. They taught me the power of the word “no” as a complete sentence. I studied books, took training, and met with these wise women to learn their ways. That led to doing great for a long while. I was happy and secure in myself. I didn’t worry about finding a partner, I was okay if I was on my own. I had great boundaries and was mentoring and guiding other women on how to do so as well.

Then I fell in love, and all the tools and insight I used helped me build a great relationship that led to marriage. Everything went well for years, but problems were building. Being in a monogamous marriage didn’t allow room for fully expressing myself and something wasn’t right in my husband’s behavior. Deep down I knew something was wrong, even though on the surface everything seemed great. When I found out what my husband had been hiding, my marriage changed completely. All my old codependency issues reared their ugly heads. I felt stuck in despair about losing my marriage. I tried everything and I broke all my boundary rules to try and save my marriage. That left me feeling empty and lost. Finally, I found the courage to leave and began slowly making my way back to myself. Once again, I dove into healing myself through boundary work.

I revisited the books that healed me so many years before and found new ones to reinforce what I needed to rebuild in myself. Slowly, I got back on solid ground. I knew I had to get back to helping others on their journey to better their own relationships with themselves and others. Even though I had already been guiding others for years, I went to school and got certified in master life coaching. I also became a certified clinical hypnotherapist after I discovered how well-guided imagery can expedite the healing process. Now, with decades of experience and my formal training, I work with women struggling with insecurity to stop people-pleasing and step into relationships they love.

I am in service to those who have lost or buried their identity, voice, or heart center. I guide my clients to find their deepest soul desires and express their most authentic selves. If you’re ready to find your way to a life you’re excited to live, I’d like to invite you to book a discovery call with me today. Together, we can create a plan to help you express your most authentic self and become the person you truly want to be.